As tempting as it may be, never compare your lover with another.
Even if you want to say “You’re ten times better than my last lover”
When you compare, you bring the energy of an old lover into the now, you taint the now. Isn’t now enough?
Once, after a most intense, rock-your-sox-off passionate climax, my lover rolled over and said “That was the best orgasm i’ve ever had with you”.
Ouch!
I know she meant it as a compliment, her skin was still pink from the afterglow…
But in that moment, all my mind could do was wonder how much better her orgasms were with her other lovers! (And no, it didn’t matter that they were past lovers).
Seeing the look on my face, she quickly added “I used to have the most prolonged orgasms when i masturbated as a teenager. I’ve never been able to duplicate them.”
It took out some of the sting, but now i was wondering if she was saying that to make amends… A part of me wanted to ask her, “Was this the best orgasm you’ve ever had with another?”
But i knew better… I know the ass-biting backside of comparisons.
We think we enhance our appreciation of another when we compare them to the past. But it doesn’t work. Comparison only drags the past into the present.
Rather than compare, even if it is ten thousand times better than the past, i suggest you leave the past in the past. I would have been quite happy to hear “That was an incredible friggin’ orgasm – wow!”
Leave the past in the past! Appreciate your lover without compare!
© Joebaby
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